Dear Dr. Bride...

Hi Dr. Bride, my name is Kendra and I am getting married (obviously, lol) and I am so stressed out, my fiancee Kevin, I love him to death but he is just useless when it comes to planning the wedding with me. In general he is very passive and doesn't even notice when I do something different with my hair, but that's a whole other subject. Anyway, perfect example, I am trying to figure out the colors for our wedding and I wanted his opinion on the color combinations and he just said he wants blue, but wont say exactly what kind of blue, I was like a warm blue, a cool blue, what? All he said was blue, any blue. I wanted to know what kind of flowers he wanted, he had no opinion. When I took him gown shopping with me he told me I looked good in everything, I was like come on, really? I want him to be apart of this whole experience but he just doesn't seem interested.


What should I do?


Dear Kendra,
If you think Kevin is not interested in planning a wedding...Your absolutely, 100% right!
Not to be confused with finding you interesting, in which he obviously does since the two are getting married.
But if he doesn't notice a new hairstyle, what makes you think he will notice the difference between Robins egg blue or Tiffany blue. When it comes to flowers, men typically dont have a favorite flower, all he knows about flowers is that they smell good, sometimes they mess up his sinuses and you think that they're pretty. As far as wedding gown shopping, he loves you, of course he is going to say you look good in everything, besides, he doesn't want to say anything wrong. FYI the number one rule in gown shopping etiquette is...Never take a man wedding gown shopping! If he doesnt go shopping with you to pick out a swimsuit or new pair of jeans, why start now. I guarantee, the only thing going through his mind is how all the gowns look the same, how much is this whole thing going to cost him and who won the game? If your expecting anything more, this will only result in hurt feelings and a long drive home. Guys tend to perk up about planning a wedding when it comes to the food, the drinks, the music, the tuxes and the transportation. Try doling out the responsability of planning the wedding, instead of asking, tell him what you need him to do!

The question I am dying to ask you is ...Where are all your girlfriends?

Dear Dr. Bride...

Dear Dr. Bride,

I am thrilled to be engaged to my long-time boyfriend of 5 years. As soon as he proposed my girlfriends and I planned a special day for me to try on gowns. What was supposed to be a joyous occasion turned into a nightmare. By the time we hit our second bridal shop I was practically on the verge of tears. Every gown I tried on was either too small or they just didn't look right. The gowns were uncomfortable, unflattering and bulky. I looked HUGE in the gowns, I didn't feel beautiful at all, I felt totally self-conscious, typically I wear a size 16/18, but all the gowns I did fit were 24/26. I feel anxious just thinking about having to try on wedding gowns, its something I dread instead of something I look forward to. I want to look beautiful for my fiancee on my wedding day, but the selection and sizes of the gowns seem to make that impossible. What should I do?

Dear Bride,

I am sorry your feeling self-conscious. Wedding gowns tend to run 1-2 sizes smaller than your street size and depending on the designer they can run even smaller. It doesn't matter if your a size 6 or a size 26, if you have any body issues they only seem to be magnified when your standing there in front of that 3-way mirror. From one big girl to another, the best advice I can give you is this...GET OVER IT!!! In my experience when a girl says she wants to look beautiful on her wedding day what she is really saying is she wants to look "SKINNY" on her wedding day. If wedding dresses were intended to make us look skinny they would all come in black! Look, after 5 years I am sure he has already seen you naked, so stop blaming the dress. Your fiancee obviously loves you, lumps, bumps, fluff and all. I would recommend that you accept yourself and learn to love yourself just as much as he loves you. The size of a wedding gown is in no way a true measure for beauty, you wear the gown, the gown doesnt wear you.